Nah, actually what's on the outside counts
Well it’s that time of year again in Corporate America-annual review time *insert sarcastic yay*. This will be my first review in my current position; though I’m not nervous because I do my job and I does it well. To be frank, I don’t see myself here for a million years, but I want to take this time to heighten my skills and really hone how to adapt to different groups of people. So I sought some advice from the director of HR here. Again, I won’t be in this position forever but it is a means to an end and I thank God everyday that He's blessed me with a stable job and insurance. In my conversation with the director, I asked how should approach my manager about having more higher level responsibilities. Now he goes on and gives me all this awesome advice like “be more assertive”, “tell your manager you want more to do”, “add how my having a heavier load would be for the greater good of the department” etc. In the midst of our conversation, he brings up my attire. Now I don't walk around like I'm selling ass but I definitely don't dress for the conservative work environment. He emphasized that the company is very conservative; like he literally repeated himself a good three times saying how VERY conservative the company is. You know what he said after that, sometimes I dress like I'm going out after work. Well that would be correct. But his definition of my being dressed like I’m going on a night on the town is a sundress with my shoulders showing and no sweater to cover myself with *gasp*. Hell the way he described it, you would think I was walking around naked.
Anywho, the director went on to say that because I work with high level execs on a regular basis, I should dress the part. Let me say I know he was coming from the warmest place in his heart so I wasn't offended, I just listened. He repeated “you have to dress the part. I want people to know you for the good work you do and not the way you dress. But don't change who you are, just play the role”. Now I have a lot of mixed feelings about this. Like I want to be free and exactly who I am at all times and middle finger to the man but understand that everyone is not going to receive me and being the culture at work, they may not take me as being professional.
After he and I talked, I let everything said resonate with me and you know what, he's right. If I pride myself in being able to adapt to any environment, why would this be any different? I'm 26 years old, being childish and rebellious when I should really be taking the opportunity to learn how to deal with different types of people/environments. Let’s think of the 9-5 life as a play-just go with me on this. Think of a Shakespearean, is your ass going to show up in jeans and a graphic? Nah, you’re going to show up in your corset and powdered wig. So what’s the difference in how I think of the stage of a 9-5? Nothing. So this means if I have to wear a skirt down to my ankles and a shirt all the up my neck so be it. This season won't last forever. Play your role, know all your lines and dress the part.